Calling all moms, I have a dilemma. For lack of better words, I call it my “only child” dilemma.
First off, I have a beautiful, smart, funny, and sugary sweet three year old daughter, named Madeline. She is the light of my life and I love her with all of my heart! She has so many wonderful qualities, yet drives me crazy! Well, at least has been for the past six months. Madeline is the only child and will most likely be the only child for the rest of her life.
As the only child, she has gotten our (my husband and I) attention day-in and day-out consistently and now it seems as if it is snowballing. I am not able to have a conversation with my husband at home or even in the car without Madeline’s constant interruption for attention. I have now discovered after spending countless hours playing with Barbie’s, kitchens, play doh, baby dolls, etc., that Madeline cannot and will not play independently. I have told her to “go play in your room” many times. When I do instruct her to play in her room, she will sit in her room with that puppy dog face and well do nothing! Yes, she will sit in a room with a ton of toys and do nothing! I usually give in after five minutes and go and play with her because I feel like an awful mom.
I have started to hear complaints from the teachers at school who tell me “your daughter commands all of the attention in class, and when she does not get the attention, she does something bad and ends up in time-out.” So, for Madeline it is: me, me, oh and then me, around the clock.
I have been advised by family and friends to have another baby. They have said “she needs a sibling to share the attention with, and then she won’t have a choice.” Yes, that may be true, but my husband and I are truly set on only one child. I love children, but for our situation one child seems to be the “right” fit for us.
So moms, is there a way to get Madeline to realize there are others here on earth, without having another baby?
Am I doomed and should re-think my baby plans?
Any suggestions are welcome; I am burned out and can no longer cook plastic eggs, brush Barbie’s hair and change fake diapers!
Here is a link to an article about a Mom with an “Only Child” issue.
My name is Amy and I am a WFHM (work from home mom) with a wonderful daughter named Madeline, a fabulous husband named Jeremy and a fun-loving dog named Kahlua (named by the Humane Society). I love our family time and I enjoy sharing memories of these great times with other moms! When my schedule is open (when is that) I like to run, shop, and go to Starbucks (yes, I might have a little addiction to coffee). Hope to share more of my stories, interests, and drama with you all.